I’ve just spent 2 weeks on the beautiful island of Skyros. I was invited by Skyros Holidays to run a couple of week long workshops. The first week I ran a workshop called Raise Your Game, based on the content of my first book (Raise Your Game). The course attracted participants from far and wide – and although I’d expected participants of working age – there were a couple of retirerees, still curious – still lively with bright eyes – showing signs of life and curiosity of the world around.
The second week I ran a workshop on happiness.
One of the themes from both weeks was that of positive emotions. The link is perhaps more obvious to the workshop on happiness – but there are also strong links to success. It’s probably useful for me to say that I believe that “success” is personal – we each can and should define what success means to us. It will be different for each of us.
Anyway, back to positive emotions …. (traditionally) successful people are often driven by goals – by the attainment of something in the future. Sometimes they find that “something” is lacking in their life. Research (Lyubomirsky, King, & Diener, 2005) is beginning to show that success is linked to happiness. Not that happiness is a result of happiness – but success follows our happiness.
Not surprisingly when people achieve – achievement triggers feelings of happiness. But what happens after a day when things haven’t gone to plan …. Perhaps our happiness goes out of the window, and thus begins the beginning of a slow downward spiral. Fortunately for most of us, the downward spiral is reversable, and often we intuitively do things to “cheer us up”. However – it’s worth being aware of the importance of doing things to “cheer us up” – and perhaps having some new strategies to employ.
I’ve described TIME PERSPECTIVES before, and the importance to our well-being of having the balance between past (positive), present and future. And as mentioned above – many “successful” people know what they want and deliberately set out to achieve these things – and thus have a future focus.
One of the tools therefore is to cultivate our awareness and enjoyment of the present moment, and to take some time to positively reminisce about the past.
Oh yes, it’s easy to do whilst on a beautiful Greek island. Good food, great company, turquoise blue seas and sandy beaches. Shared experiences become the source of laughter, giggles and smiles. We have time to sit and share a coffee, to build new memories and to savour our past experiences. We can meander through the streets and enjoy the moment.
The question is – how well can you integrate “savouring & reminiscing” into “normal life”?
References & Acknowledgements:
Lyubomirsky, S., King, L., & Diener, E. (2005). The Benefits of Frequent Positive Affect: Does Happiness Lead to Success? Psychological Bulletin, 131(6), 803-855. doi: 10.1037/0033-2909.131.6.803
Photograph, courtesy of Kel Portman